For example, he explores how people are increasingly and simultaneously cynical about marriage and idealistic about what they think marriage is. Cultural expectations are both far too low and far too high. Among many other things, this means that Keller will not allow us to idolize our spouse or idealize "true love. What they argue for from their interpretation of scripture is complementarianism.
That is, that God created male and female differently, in such a way that marriage is a union of similar, yet different beings, for the betterment of both. While I don't follow the Kellers down every one of their implications, I do think this is the best place to go for a careful description of the best potential for husband and wife to serve one another in truth and love.
As one example, the Christian church honored single-hood as a God-blessed option for life. This in a pagan culture that generally frowned upon widows who hadn't remarried, and singles who had never married. Mar 28, Nathan Schneider rated it it was amazing Shelves: Tim Keller, alongside of his wife, Kathy, writes a great book on marriage, sex, and singleness. Keller, a pastor in New York City, elevates the place of marriage, sex, and singleness, while at the same time challenging contemporary idols that both non-Christians and Christians often hold on to as they relate to relationships.
His work is biblically grounded and very practical. He does an effective job of grounding each of these relational elements in the glory of God. Marriage points to the grea Tim Keller, alongside of his wife, Kathy, writes a great book on marriage, sex, and singleness. Marriage points to the greatest marriage, between Christ and the church. Dec 26, Alicia rated it liked it. I got this book as a gift and I liked it, but I had some serious issues with the stereotyping going on in the book.
It seemed as if every few pages, the author was saying that non-Christians are sex crazed and only care about money. I feel like loving others shouldn't be an 'us versus them' thing However, I'm definitely too biased because my husband and I lived together before we were married and don't go to church much because of some bad experiences. However, this would be a good book to acc I got this book as a gift and I liked it, but I had some serious issues with the stereotyping going on in the book.
However, this would be a good book to accompany a Bible study, as it will provoke discussion and debate. Feb 02, Leah rated it did not like it Shelves: I hated this book so much I couldn't bear to finish it. If you're looking for a traditional, anti-feminist view of marriage that is Jesusy enough to make you barf, this is it. Our marriage counselor recommended this book for us to read as a newly married couple, but we couldn't stomach it and it definitely isn't "us.
Dec 11, Jessica Manuel rated it it was amazing.
In the introduction, Keller states that this book is for those who have experienced the notion that the honeymoon is over and have fallen back to Earth with a thud Read my full review here: Jul 05, Ben Flegal rated it it was amazing Shelves: This is the single best book on marriage I have ever read. Most marriage books tend to explain a few verses from scripture, but mostly consist of a husband and wife usually the husband speaking for himself and his wife giving practical insight into how marriage can work better. Such books are helpful, but they are often greatly lacking in the theology department.
This book, however, is a Biblical theology on marriage - no more and no less - and is the only one I have ever read or found. Tim Ke This is the single best book on marriage I have ever read. Tim Keller and his wife, Kathy, do an amazing job in both exegeting and applying the scriptures, frequently rejecting the cultural perspectives of both the world and the church in favor of the teachings of God.
This book also differs from most marriage books in that it is not written only for married couples; Keller makes it clear in his introduction that the book is for the married and the unmarried. His purpose is to give all a proper perspective of what marriage is so that we can better understand God's word and better live our lives accordingly.
It is possible that other books exist which do this, but I have never read one. If there is one book every couple should read either before they marry or sometime in the course of their marriage, I believe this is it. Jul 09, Craig Dean rated it it was amazing. A must read for married, or unmarried, Christians. A book full of unapologetic biblical truth and cutting insight. This is a practical and compassionate book, and it is truly impactful to anyone who yearns to be a better spouse.
As I approached the end, I was stunned when my wife turned to me in tears and said, she was so happy to have her husband A must read for married, or unmarried, Christians. As he states in his book, this is not just a book for married people; but the unmarried as well. And I wholeheartedly agree, as this book will definitely give singles a correct, non-fairy tale tainted look on the many aspects of marriage.
Sep 03, Jade rated it it was amazing. This is by far the best marriage book to grace this pair of eyes. While other marriage books focus on the day to day actions or what you can do, The Meaning of Marriage focuses on the big picture and the heart of marriage. This is my second time reading it and I doubt it will be my last. Aug 25, Igor Putina rated it it was amazing. Great book, recommend it highly to anyone who likes reading and wants a healthy perspective on marriage.
Feb 03, Linda rated it it was amazing. Tim Keller never ceases to amaze me with his prolific works and his profound insight into marriage. Accompanied by his wife, Kathy Keller, this book will now be deemed by me as the holy grail of marriage books due to the brilliance of painting a picture of marriage that is glorious, joyous, heartwrenching, and sanctifying, which is what God intended marriage to be.
One of my favorite passages on marriage is in the chapter called The Mission of Marriage.
In marriage, each person says to the other, Tim Keller never ceases to amaze me with his prolific works and his profound insight into marriage. In marriage, each person says to the other, " I see all your flaws, imperfections, weaknesses, dependencies. But underneath them all I see growing the person God wants you to be.
But if you don't get excited about the person your spouse has already grown into and will become, you aren't tapping into the power of marriage as spiritual friendship. The goal is to see something absolutely ravishing that God is making of the beloved. You see even now flashes of glory. You want to help your spouse become the person God wants him or her to be. When two Christians who fully understand this stand before the minister all decked out in their wedding finery, they realize they're not just playing dress up.
What they're saying is that someday they are going to be standing not before the minister but before the Lord. And they will turn to see each other without spot and blemish. And they hope to hear God say, "Well done, good and faithful servants. Over the years you have lifted one another up to me. You have sacrificed for one another. You held one another up with prayer and with thanksgiving. You confronted each other. You rebuked each other. You hugged and you loved each other and continually pushed each other toward me.
And now look at you. You're radiant" Romance, sex, laughter, and plain fun are the by products of this process of sanctification, refinement, glorification. Those things are important, but they can't keep the marriage going through years and years of ordinary life. What keeps the marriage going is your commitment to your spouse's holiness. Your committed to his or her beauty. You're committed to his greatness and perfection. You're committed to her honesty and passion for the things of God. That's your job as a spouse.
Any lesser goal that that, any smaller purpose, and you're just playing at being married. Nov 20, Nathan Mckinney rated it really liked it Shelves: Despite the title and subject matter, this book is not just for those who are married or interested in marriage. Keller's approach to the subject of marriage makes relevant for everyone. He starts with something I wasn't expecting and didn't even realize was necessary with his argument for marriage. I forget that not everyone has a positive view of marriage. Keller starts by reminding us that marriage was God's idea, not a social construct created by man, and is a reflection of the gospel.
In hi Despite the title and subject matter, this book is not just for those who are married or interested in marriage. He says that most people want too much out of marriage, and yet not enough at the same time. Along the same idea, he talked his belief that no two people are compatible, and even if you find that perfectly compatible person, that will last until you marry them, because marriage changes you.
And he believes that is actually part of its purpose, to change you and help reveal the person that God created you to be. One of the common arguments against marriage is that it is restricting and that by making it a legal contract the relationship is less romantic. But Keller argues that it is more intimate because it is legal. He says the binding contract of marriage is actually more freeing, because by committing yourself to someone and choosing to love them despite your feelings, you are not longer a slave to your emotions.
He says that the aesthete doesn't love the person, but rather they love the way the person makes them feel. I found this argument to be very profound and even very romantic. He also does a great job of addressing the subject of gender roles. His wife actually helped him with this chapter and she doesn't shy away from what the Scripture says about the differing roles of the husband and wife.
They see a lot of freedom in how those roles are lived out in each unique marriage and they see both as "servant roles.
I highly recommend this book. I really enjoyed Tim and Kathy Keller's insights into marriage and the biblical perspective presented with practical considerations. I feel this will be a book I return to over the years to refresh myself over its ideas and as I imagine my perspective will deepen and shift as I learn what married life actually looks like.
One key piece I took away from it is how marrying a single person is actually more like marrying several.
Such an encouraging book for all believers, and especially filled with hope for anyone who has endured or is enduring a period of spiritual darkness. I'm sooo excited to love my bride in a way that is richer and more glorious than anything we have tasted thus far. Sep 04, Michael Cranford rated it it was amazing. And I doubt that I know my bad ones well enough to see the traces of grace. All true and spot-on. Timothy and Kathy Keller pack a lot of experience and exegesis into this book, packaged into eight chapters:
This is really something I'd never heard, but as I turned 32 recently, I really enjoyed Tim and Kathy Keller's insights into marriage and the biblical perspective presented with practical considerations. This is really something I'd never heard, but as I turned 32 recently, makes total sense: But you cannot expect them to stay the same as this is short sighted.
You shouldn't want that either, because you too have changed and will change. Change is healthy and necessary—for yourself and for the relationship. Life does this, new ideas, people, and experiences do this. The challenge comes in trying to adapt, it seems. In continuing to draw near, to grow together, and to consider who you ultimately are, as individuals and as a unit. There is a lot of honesty about how the Kellers marriage looks, how they've struggled and grown. They don't pretend their marriage has lacked messy periods. This is good to be made known, in case anyone should think otherwise.
The biggest component and a vital part of a marriage, let alone a single person's life, is the gospel being the foundation. Keller basically emphasizes the walk of the Christian Life itself, which is specifically considered in this book through a marital lens. The correlation of Christ and the Church, as well as the interactions within the Trinity itself, are compared to a marital relationship in a powerful manner; a daunting challenge in many ways, yet filled with grace and paved by blessings if one is to take it up and pursue it full heartedly, leaning into trust in God's sovereignty and providence.
Encouraging and exciting to contemplate, but certainly a lot of work and a very serious undertaking. Quite powerful, which Tim and Kathy Keller dive into with a great amount of respect for the topic and those reading. Apr 22, Meredith rated it it was amazing. I will admit, I am a huge Keller fan and read everything he writes with interest.
He is theological, but easy to understand. I think this book is a must read for every single adult and married person. Pastoring a large metropolitan church, he has lots of single professionals in his church. He begins the book addressing the purpose of marriage and blows holes through the popular myth that marriage is for self-fulfillment or to find your "soul-ma I will admit, I am a huge Keller fan and read everything he writes with interest. He begins the book addressing the purpose of marriage and blows holes through the popular myth that marriage is for self-fulfillment or to find your "soul-mate.
This is the first book I have seen that takes the Gospel and applies it to marriage. How do I love? What does submission look like? What does headship look like when my husband applies the Gospel? Yes, marriage is hard work, but is is glorious. It was refreshing to read a book that is not a formula. Over and over again, he reminds the reader that marriage is the coming together of two sinners who become one and work on making it a glorious mystery in the sight of God and man. He spends a whole chapter on singleness that is a must read.
All my kids will read it before they leave the house. A great chapter on sex and marriage that addresses issues in an appropriate, yet necessary way. Dec 13, Ben Peltz rated it it was amazing Shelves: The best book on marriage that I have read to date. Characteristic for Tim Keller, this book is full of rich pastoral theology. The word theology is key Keller refuses to indulge in the self-help craze in a subject area that is almost exclusively dominated by self-help. Instead, he carefully works through a biblical theology of marriage, connecting it with the overarching themes of God's covenant love for his people, the love of Christ at the cross, and the love instilled in the lives of beli The best book on marriage that I have read to date.
Instead, he carefully works through a biblical theology of marriage, connecting it with the overarching themes of God's covenant love for his people, the love of Christ at the cross, and the love instilled in the lives of believers by the Holy Spirit. Three things stand out as with mentioning. First, as with all of Keller's writing, his application of the Gospel in the context of marriage is far more helpful than any simplistic three-step formula to a happy marriage. Second, the chapter on sex is amazing and incredibly valuable in and of itself because of the way that Keller relishes and promotes covenant intimacy.
And finally, this book hits the sweet spot when it comes to biblical gender roles with the topic being contained to a single chapter, whereas many evangelical books make it the central focus of marriage. To boot, the chapter is written by a woman Tim's wife, Kathy , and it contains a profound reflection on other-ness that sets it above most complementarian writing. These things make this a must-read for anyone interested in what Christianity has to say about marriage. There are no discussion topics on this book yet. There is more than one author in the Goodreads database with this name.
Timothy Keller is the founding pastor of Redeemer Presbyterian Church in Manhattan, which he started in with his wife, Kathy, and three young sons. For over twenty years he has led a diverse congregation of young professionals that has grown to a weekly attendance of over 5, He is also Chairman of Redeem Librarian Note: He is also Chairman of Redeemer City to City, which starts new churches in New York and other global cities, and publishes books and resources for faith in an urban culture.
In over ten years they have helped to launch over churches in 48 cities. Books by Timothy J. See All Goodreads Deals…. Trivia About The Meaning of Ma No trivia or quizzes yet. Quotes from The Meaning of Ma To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. It liberates us from pretense, humbles us out of our self-righteousness, and fortifies us for any difficulty life can throw at us.
We are more sinful and flawed in ourselves than we ever dared believe, yet at the very same time we are more loved and accepted in Jesus Christ than we ever dared hope. Just a moment while we sign you in to your Goodreads account. Faith is sustained by looking at Christ, crucified and risen, not by turning from Christ to analyze your faith. While we have the light, let us cultivate distrust of the certainties of despair. Fold the arms of thy faith, and wait in the quietness until light goes up in thy darkness. Fold the arms of thy Faith I say, but not of thy Action: If your feelings are telling you that staying in bed is the best thing today, preach to your feelings and tell them how foolish they are.
But then exert your will and get up!
First, we must say that joy is part of your duty. Failing to rejoice in God when we are commanded to rejoice is sin. False comforts lead to artificial healing. But the truest diagnoses lead to the deepest cures. So, yes, we tell the disconsolate: He will hear you mercifully and forgive.
You are not hiding the hardness of ingratitude, but hoping for the inbreaking of the Spirit. Declare me innocent from hidden faults. Keep back your servant also from presumptuous sins; let them not have dominion over me! And we have sins that we know about. It is good news to realize there is a biblical prayer that covers both. The battle can be fierce. What is called for usually is the ministry of 2 Timothy 2: God may perhaps grant them repentance leading to a knowledge of the truth, and they may escape from the snare of the devil, after being captured by him to do his will.
If you pour yourself out for the hungry and satisfy the desire of the afflicted, then shall your light rise in the darkness and your gloom be as the noonday. And the LORD will guide you continually and satisfy your desire in scorched places and make your bones strong; and you shall be like a watered garden, like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail. You cannot persuade a depressed person that he has not been utterly rejected by God if he is persuaded that he has been. But you can stand by him. God moves in a mysterious way His wonders to perform; He plants his footsteps in the sea And rides upon the storm.
Deep in unfathomable mines Of never failing skill He treasures up his bright designs And works his sovereign will. You fearful saints, fresh courage take; The clouds you so much dread Are big with mercy and shall break In blessings on your head. His purposes will ripen fast, Unfolding every hour; The bud may have a bitter taste, But sweet will be the flower. Blind unbelief is sure to err And scan his work in vain; God is his own interpreter, And he will make it plain.
I will complain, yet praise; I will bewail, approve: And all my sowre-sweet dayes I will lament, and love. Jan 30, Heather rated it it was amazing. He doesn't shy away from telling it how it is, yet at the same time, he does this in a very encouraging manner and continually reminds the Believer of the power and safe keeping of God. As someone who is experiencing the melancholy Piper references, I found this book both enlightening and very encouraging. Feb 01, Myles rated it it was amazing.
Great short read for those suffering. Aug 04, Jacob Stevens rated it it was amazing. This short book is full of practical wisdom coupled with deep theological teaching. Even if you aren't experiencing depression, there is a big chance that someone you know might be. Reading this book will be a great resource to help you in serving your friend during their season of doubt and insecurity. Oct 13, Sarah Norton rated it it was amazing. A wonderful book by Piper. It's short and manageable to read Piper tells the truth of the gospel in love without softening the gospel message.
He holds the reader accountable to pursuing joy and a relationship with God even in our depression. I've read this book twice and continue to be encouraged by it. Apr 19, Suzanne Stock rated it it was amazing Recommends it for: Christians experiencing depression or going through overwhelming trials. As someone who has struggled with severe depression, I wish I would have known about this brief, wisdom-packed book while in the midst of some of my rougher times.
This is one I will keep right by my Bible to refer to if ever I happen to need encouragement in the midst of a dark period. Jul 21, Jlnpeacock rated it really liked it. This is a brief work on depression. It is helpful if one is dealing with people who truly suffer from depression. There are many practical applications.
It increases one's sympathy for those who are unable to overcome depression. Apr 02, Suz rated it really liked it. Nice, short and encouraging. At times it can be a bit dry and theological, however. Not always the best read when you just are sad and want to feel better, but give some very good insights on when Christians have depression and what we can do about it.
May 21, Josh Simons rated it really liked it. I've struggled with despair for many years. Not that Piper's book is a cure-all, but I find in it much encouragement as he stands beside me in my melancholy. I'm grateful for Piper's pointing us to the joy that is in Christ and the hope that is in Him, even when that is so small as not to be seen. Oct 29, Nicole rated it it was amazing Shelves: This short book was better than I expected.
I recommend it for the follower of Christ who is experiencing the darkness or who has a loved one who is. The shortness makes it digestible and not overwhelming. Sep 04, Michael Cranford rated it it was amazing.
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Such an encouraging book for all believers, and especially filled with hope for anyone who has endured or is enduring a period of spiritual darkness. A wonderful primer on the subject of mental health and spirituality, filled with resources for further reading. I highly recommend this short work. There are no discussion topics on this book yet. John Piper is founder and teacher of desiringGod. Paul, Minnesota, and in accepted the call to serve as pastor at Bethlehem.
John is the author of more than 50 books and more than 30 years of his preaching and teaching is available free at desiringGod. John and his wife, Noel, have four sons, one daughter, and twelve grandchildren. There is more than one author in the GoodReads database with this name.
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